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Basically, the no contact rule works after breakup because it gives the person who's been dumped a chance to think, unwind, relax, and breathe.
If you cut off contact with your ex after the [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] breakup, you're allowing yourself time to think over what happened. This is vital before you go contacting her again because you can ask yourself simply:
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-Do I really want to reconnect with my [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] ex?
-What will happen if we get back together?
-How can I change my behavior in the relationship so that she trusts me?
-How can I rebuild trust in my relationship?
-How can the two of [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] us talk together in a way that works towards mutual love, respect, and harmony (as opposed to fighting)?
No contact rule also works after breakup because it gives [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] you time to think about these questions and answer them honestly. Rather than seeing your breakup as the end of your time with this person, see it instead as a chance to analyze your relationship from a different point of view.
When you want to break no contact, it's best to do so by sending a message to your ex that says, "I understand why you wanted to break up and I'm okay with the breakup."
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Keeping [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] no contact for 30 days or something like that is not as advisable. Instead, no contact works because it gives both parties a [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] chance to think and rest after the fighting and negativity that's brought on by a breakup.
So just limit no contact to a shorter amount of time - say, a week, or a few days, or whatever, and then send her a note saying you're okay with the breakup. [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] That's the best way to make no contact effective in getting your ex back after a breakup. [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] Don't overdo the amount of time you're apart, but instead, keep it productive by allowing you to think over the questions mentioned above.
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