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's mother to take care of advanced cancer, or return to Beijing to feed their families, to help his wife take care of only two years old daughter "Maybe we'll go back Xinjiang family bar." Zhao's wife Li says with a smile. Zhao tangled from their parents pension dilemma. He is the "80" a typical representative of the one-child generation, follow the "go big city battles, then in exile married" life path. Stay at home parents, the body can take care of themselves while still hale and hearty, and even use the service to take care of grandchildren, children, once suffering from disease, problems immediately before us: to return home to take care of their parents meant losing his job, the parents take over maintenance and Xinyou is weak - the house is a headache problem, high cost of land in cities, own a three live in very crowded, old man came to live where Zhao home in the most difficult times, Beijing 59 square meters of home while six people lived: advanced cancer mother, father, sick in bed, Zhao couple, less than one-year-old daughter, came to help care for the elderly and children Zhao Peng's mother. Data from the Ministry of Civil Affairs show that China now urban empty nesters over 50%, some cities reached 70%. Urban and rural development imbalance makes the "parents still excursion" Zhao became the real life of this generation status. And this state behind the plight of tens of millions of elderly pension. Zhao successive ill parents was born in 1980 in Xinjiang, came to Beijing in 2005, worked in an IT company. Two years earlier than his wife Li to Beijing, worked at a newspaper. They are quite good income,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], a few years, the couple bought a one bedroom in Beijing, bank account has also been five "zero." Zhao and his wife is very satisfied with the status quo. In 2011,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], the birth of her daughter adds more fun little family. That year, Zhao's parents came from Xinjiang came to take care of granddaughter. But happiness is very short. Before long, Zhao's father because of lumbar spinal stenosis and lumbar disc herniation, the Beijing Military General Hospital did a spinal surgery. Due to secondary infection, originally a simple surgery forced to do three times, spent a total of 210,000 yuan. "We gave all his savings to the hospital." Li said. Elderly Medicare in Xinjiang, medical expenses only by Zhao couple first advance. Father Zhao third post-operative mobility, lying in bed, life can not take care of themselves. As the only son, Zhao had no choice, since the beginning of surgery father, he took leave of absence to the company every day in the hospital accompany sleep at night to the hospital rent beach chairs. After a series of setbacks, the old father finally out of the hospital. But his leg muscle atrophy, not the normal standing and walking, only to sit. A person's life once the order has been disrupted. Nevertheless, Zhao couple still relieved. "As long as life comfortably, slowly restore it." No one thought after that there are bigger problems. This time, is Zhao's mother. October 2011, Zhao mother suddenly back pain, the family thought it was tired of taking care of children and husbands, and not too concerned. Mothers themselves did not seriously. I did not expect B-ultrasound, they found that the liver has two shadows. After review, the doctor said, "to do a more thorough check." Because of his father fell ill,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], "warning", a man dared lightly. Li Na remembers to the hospital to get the results, nervous walking around some floating. Zhao mother colonoscopy diagnosis results are: rectal cancer. "We really do not believe, said: 'No way,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych],'" Li said,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], "In fact, no one is willing to believe." Zhao Some could not carry. Almost lost his father just from panic to escape, his mother was terminally ill. "As the only son, no one can share the pain with him." Li said. Zhao's dilemma is a true portrayal of this generation only child. Since 1978, as a basic national policy of family planning since, to date, received a "one-child certificate" China has more than 80 million the number of new generation. 30 years later, the first generation of only children have reached or will reach the thirties,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], when the "little emperors", "Little Princess" are facing to support four elderly people, and the lack of brothers and sisters to help one another test. Plus many parents are off-site Medicare reimbursement for pension has added a real obstacle. Hospital soon come up with a treatment plan: do a rectal excision surgery, and then chemotherapy, four months later to do the liver excision. Back home, the couple feeling lost to the extreme. Stronger but still put a brave face on the two old man said, "is not serious, to have surgery on the line." But in fact,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], "that a few days time we can not wait for this to stop, or the Earth suddenly exploded." Li said. Money and houses are difficult father during hospitalization has spent Zhao family savings. Father's land far away in Xinjiang Medicare reimbursement, and the present circumstances, no one to go home empty reimbursement. So, to cure his mother's money became a problem. Ultimately, Zhao's father to his brother borrowed 100,000 yuan of money emergency. Li clearly remember, Zhao mother's surgery scheduled for December 2,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], 2011, that the world of Beijing's first snow of winter. "I did not accompany her mother surgery units, particularly busy, too fake, have been embarrassed to ask," Li said, she immediately added a sentence, "In fact, these are the excuses it,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], more fear, anxiety . "But as the daughter of Li eventually took leave of absence. She came to the hospital early. Zhao mother surgery has been done, the ventilator and other equipment also are in the body, "breathe very weak." The next day, the elderly woke up. While sleeping in the past will continue, but the doctor said that my mother's surgery was successful. Who will take care of his mother became another problem. Zhao couple to go to work, the family has a child less than one year old, as well as a bedridden, life can not take care of the elderly. The couple really Gubuguolai only please care workers, 100 yuan a day. Even so, it still does not completely solve the problem. Zhao had to mother, please come and help. "The home then please nanny, then it is some overhead can not afford." Li said. Zhao Pengyue mother one to Beijing, opened the door to see male relatives lying in bed and bedside toddler along, go to the hospital to see dying mother's relatives, her tears streaming down. Buy a house before the time that three of Li, who lives in one bedroom should be no problem. But now this 55 square meter house was also home to five people: bedridden father, Zhao couple, Li mother, there is a only a 10 month old child. "Bedroom roughly nine square meters, me and my mother took the children to live; 15 square meters of living branch of a large bed, father to settle here; husband can only get hold of in the kitchen simple bed improvise." Li said. For those too busy to attend Zhao. Mother is hospitalized, his mother every day in hospitals asleep and returned home. Home when the children are asleep. Soon, Zhao's mother left the hospital. She did not want to stay in the hospital for the moment,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], each end of chemotherapy, have insisted on the discharge formalities. Originally a small house so crowded it is "packed to children even the pins are not." During that time, Li Na every home, the door opened, you can see two very sick old man lying in bed in the living room. Worse is that the long-term under one year old daughter living with the patient, seems to be able to feel this uncomfortable atmosphere, soon fell ill. "There was a time a child with fever cough, me and my mom took her to see a doctor with that time her mother also hospital chemotherapy, (a person) just in the hospital together." Li recalls. Watching a child's face burned red, two relatives with care speechless, just tears. Zhao mother after chemotherapy, the father's body good, too little. The old couple flew back to Xinjiang hurry home. First, because they live Beijing too crowded, and second, because they are sick of hundreds of thousands of medical expenses to be reimbursed within a year, "They worry also our money." "The kids saving money is not easy, and the children have children." Zhao said the mother. Because it is the off-site Medicare reimbursement and most drugs are beyond the end, Zhao father 210,000 of medical expenses reimbursed only 100,000, the mother takes 260,000 reported more than 40,000. "It turned out that (deposits) five zero really just 'zero'." Li said. A heart, two led by the Department by the end of October 2012, Zhao's parents returned home four months later,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], the mother's back pain began, and body aches. Xinjiang Medical examination results are: the cancer has spread to the lymph, could "only live half a year." This day will come sooner or later, Zhao felt dilemma. Father has been able to walk at this time, but still can not completely take care of themselves, let alone take care of another patient. Placed in front of him only two ways: either the parents to Beijing to take care of; either resign yourself, back to Xinjiang to take care of their parents. The first option unrealistic: Beijing's house is too small, the elderly live together recuperate and children health are negative; addition, the family penniless, the need for timely reimbursement of medical expenses, but the relationship between parents' health insurance in Xinjiang. After careful consideration, Zhao had to bite the second road: to resign. This means that the main source of home was cut off. "No thought your nanny., But stubborn old father, has not agreed." Li said. Zhao Pengming white parents mind. China since ancient times, the tradition of raising children for old age. Moreover,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], China's current social and professional facilities for the elderly and the elderly care market far from mature. "We did not dare entrust father wanted nanny, not to mention the nursing home." Li said. November 2012, Zhao submitted his resignation to the company. Boss sympathizes with him, did not let him go, he was temporarily approved remote office for six months, until the mother is in stable condition to return to Beijing. "Fortunately no immediate unemployment, which many people happy." Li said. Now, from the mother was diagnosed with the life term of only six months had passed three months. In the past 100 days, Zhao's daughter every day, and grandfather, grandmother, father video chat. When the child is still video performances, amused a person laugh. But Zhao heart was bitter with unspeakable: the mother is likely to die soon, his father in the Xinjiang people also need to take care of, but the age of two children, and their work was far away in Beijing. He's a heart and two led by the Department. Li does see her husband's mind. "If (Xinjiang) have the right job, we probably would go back." She said. But just saying that. Internet technology is doing Zhao, Li Na in the media industry. Fortunately, they do not find a suitable job in Xinjiang. "What will happen next, I really can not think." Li said. (Requirements should be interviewed, Zhao, Li is a pseudonym)
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