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I just spent the weekend with my 2 year old niece. My kids are now older and I forgot how much fun it is to spend time with a toddler. They say the funniest things. I had also forgotten that all 2 year olds to do it myself! That seemed to be a recurrent theme these past few days. Mara wanted to pick out her own clothing,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], put on her own shoes,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and climb up and down our steep basement steps herself.
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